Comments for Healthy Living Seminars Family Life Blog http://healthylivingseminars.wordpress.com A Family Life Blog designed to provide comfort to those most in need Thu, 15 Oct 2009 18:33:19 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on Saving a Christian Marriage from Divorce: Ten things you should know by JMP http://healthylivingseminars.wordpress.com/2007/11/18/saving-a-christian-marriage-from-divorce-ten-things-you-should-know/#comment-62 JMP Thu, 15 Oct 2009 18:33:19 +0000 http://healthylivingseminars.wordpress.com/2007/11/18/saving-a-christian-marriage-from-divorce-ten-things-you-should-know/#comment-62 Blessed Virgin, Queen of the Holy Rosary, please intercede on my behalf and ask your Son to convert my wife, change her heart to love me and reconcile our marriage. I promise to consecrate myself, my spouse and my children to your Immaculate Heart. Blessed Virgin, Queen of the Holy Rosary, please intercede on my behalf and ask your Son to convert my wife, change her heart to love me and reconcile our marriage. I promise to consecrate myself, my spouse and my children to your Immaculate Heart.

]]> Comment on Saving a Christian Marriage from Divorce: Ten things you should know by tscott07 http://healthylivingseminars.wordpress.com/2007/11/18/saving-a-christian-marriage-from-divorce-ten-things-you-should-know/#comment-61 tscott07 Tue, 09 Jun 2009 22:08:41 +0000 http://healthylivingseminars.wordpress.com/2007/11/18/saving-a-christian-marriage-from-divorce-ten-things-you-should-know/#comment-61 Hi Katlynn, My heart goes out to you and your family facing this most difficult situation. I have been praying for you and I ask our members to do the same. A couple of thoughts came to mind when I read your post. 1. Have you consulted your pastor, or church elders? 2. You can not stop him from leaving, but you must continue to honor God. Remember judgement belongs to Him. 3. Think about your testimony to the children. They are watching and you must be an example of a Godly woman. 4. Learn to set limits, no man will respect a woman that they can walk over. 5. Stay in Christian counseling to learn how to handle this situation. You will need both professional and spiritual guidance. 6. Find at least 5 Godly women who can support you and help you maintain a Godly perspective. 7. Get a copy of Dr. James Dobson's book "Love Must Be Tough" it is an excellent read for this issue. 8. Stay close to God. You really need to hear from Him. 9. Listen to our broadcast "Ask the Doctors" we address this and other issues. Visit us at http://www.healthylivingseminars.org 10. Your husband is in need of much prayer, because he is in position for God's judgement! Read Mal. 2:16; Matt 5:32; 19:9; 1 Cor. 7:12-16; Gen. 1:27; 2:24 Remember to keep your self dignity, integrity and self-respect as you address this issue. Seek God in doing the right thing. He will guide you. Last, there is something much worse than living with a mate in disharmony. It's living with God in disobedience. Keep us informed! In Him, Dr. Tracy Scott Hi Katlynn,
My heart goes out to you and your family facing this most difficult situation. I have been praying for you and I ask our members to do the same. A couple of thoughts came to mind when I read your post.

1. Have you consulted your pastor, or church elders?
2. You can not stop him from leaving, but you must continue to honor God. Remember judgement belongs to Him.
3. Think about your testimony to the children. They are watching and you must be an example of a Godly woman.
4. Learn to set limits, no man will respect a woman that they can walk over.
5. Stay in Christian counseling to learn how to handle this situation. You will need both professional and spiritual guidance.
6. Find at least 5 Godly women who can support you and help you maintain a Godly perspective.
7. Get a copy of Dr. James Dobson’s book “Love Must Be Tough” it is an excellent read for this issue.
8. Stay close to God. You really need to hear from Him.
9. Listen to our broadcast “Ask the Doctors” we address this and other issues. Visit us at http://www.healthylivingseminars.org
10. Your husband is in need of much prayer, because he is in position for God’s judgement!

Read Mal. 2:16; Matt 5:32; 19:9; 1 Cor. 7:12-16; Gen. 1:27; 2:24

Remember to keep your self dignity, integrity and self-respect as you address this issue. Seek God in doing the right thing. He will guide you. Last, there is something much worse than living with a mate in disharmony. It’s living with God in disobedience.

Keep us informed!

In Him,
Dr. Tracy Scott

]]> Comment on Saving a Christian Marriage from Divorce: Ten things you should know by Katlynn http://healthylivingseminars.wordpress.com/2007/11/18/saving-a-christian-marriage-from-divorce-ten-things-you-should-know/#comment-60 Katlynn Sun, 24 May 2009 10:19:41 +0000 http://healthylivingseminars.wordpress.com/2007/11/18/saving-a-christian-marriage-from-divorce-ten-things-you-should-know/#comment-60 My husband and I have been married for 24 years, we have 2 children both in college, and he has left the home and is currently having an affair with a married woman (who has three small children) for the past 6 months. We are both Christians. I have tried counseling (alone), relationship counseling, seeking intercession from Christian friends and pastors, constant kindness towards him, and consistent prayer. There has been no change in his heart or his mind about divorce. I do not know what to do (I do not believe divorce is God's will) any longer or where to turn. I have been a stay home homeschooling mom for 24 years, he holds all the reins on everything. Is there truly no hope left or nowhere left to turn? My husband and I have been married for 24 years, we have 2 children both in college, and he has left the home and is currently having an affair with a married woman (who has three small children) for the past 6 months. We are both Christians. I have tried counseling (alone), relationship counseling, seeking intercession from Christian friends and pastors, constant kindness towards him, and consistent prayer. There has been no change in his heart or his mind about divorce. I do not know what to do (I do not believe divorce is God’s will) any longer or where to turn. I have been a stay home homeschooling mom for 24 years, he holds all the reins on everything. Is there truly no hope left or nowhere left to turn?

]]> Comment on Saving a Christian Marriage from Divorce: Ten things you should know by tscott07 http://healthylivingseminars.wordpress.com/2007/11/18/saving-a-christian-marriage-from-divorce-ten-things-you-should-know/#comment-58 tscott07 Thu, 29 Jan 2009 19:45:30 +0000 http://healthylivingseminars.wordpress.com/2007/11/18/saving-a-christian-marriage-from-divorce-ten-things-you-should-know/#comment-58 Hi Cheryl, First let me say thank you for reaching out. It takes a lot of courage to ask for help, and you have taken the first step for healing. You have a very difficult situation, but not impossible. I read that you have gone to counseling, but only for one month. If your husband does not want to go back, then you go and learn through counseling how to deal with this situation. Sometimes, when one spouse goes for help, the other follows; if for nothing more than curiosity, but it can help. Also, surround yourself with godly women from your local church; there is great wisdom in seeking support from women that are wise in counsel. Start with your church and then reach out to other churches in your area. Most pastors have a keen sense of knowing who to recommend to you. You can also check out our website at www.healthylivingseminars.org go to the self-help page and look at the resources. Last, I have asked our listeners to pray for you and your husband. We need God's hand to touch your husband. Your husband is angry about something and is not sure as to how to deal with it. If he has a relationship with the pastor, ask the pastor to intervene. Please keep us posted. In Him, Dr. Tracy Scott Hi Cheryl,

First let me say thank you for reaching out. It takes a lot of courage to ask for help, and you have taken the first step for healing.

You have a very difficult situation, but not impossible. I read that you have gone to counseling, but only for one month. If your husband does not want to go back, then you go and learn through counseling how to deal with this situation. Sometimes, when one spouse goes for help, the other follows; if for nothing more than curiosity, but it can help.

Also, surround yourself with godly women from your local church; there is great wisdom in seeking support from women that are wise in counsel. Start with your church and then reach out to other churches in your area. Most pastors have a keen sense of knowing who to recommend to you.

You can also check out our website at http://www.healthylivingseminars.org go to the self-help page and look at the resources.

Last, I have asked our listeners to pray for you and your husband. We need God’s hand to touch your husband. Your husband is angry about something and is not sure as to how to deal with it. If he has a relationship with the pastor, ask the pastor to intervene.

Please keep us posted.

In Him,
Dr. Tracy Scott

]]> Comment on Saving a Christian Marriage from Divorce: Ten things you should know by Cheryl http://healthylivingseminars.wordpress.com/2007/11/18/saving-a-christian-marriage-from-divorce-ten-things-you-should-know/#comment-57 Cheryl Mon, 26 Jan 2009 20:21:23 +0000 http://healthylivingseminars.wordpress.com/2007/11/18/saving-a-christian-marriage-from-divorce-ten-things-you-should-know/#comment-57 My husband and I have been married for the past 5 years. He has shared with me that me and my family make him miserable and he wants to end our marriage. A year ago, we went to counseling for about one month. Although it was quite helpful, he doesn't want to go back. We didnt return after our vacation. I have asked him to give us 6 months to seek help and to work really hard and see where we are after 6 months. He has such a negative attitude and doesn't want to do it. This was all brought about by a car crash that ended in a death in my family. I have lost several members of my family since we have been married (all older). He now says that he doesn't want to be by myside when my family dies because of the lifestyle they are choosing - drinking and smoking. He has really said some hurtful things. I don't know what to do. I do love him and want my marriage to work. My husband and I have been married for the past 5 years. He has shared with me that me and my family make him miserable and he wants to end our marriage. A year ago, we went to counseling for about one month. Although it was quite helpful, he doesn’t want to go back. We didnt return after our vacation. I have asked him to give us 6 months to seek help and to work really hard and see where we are after 6 months. He has such a negative attitude and doesn’t want to do it. This was all brought about by a car crash that ended in a death in my family. I have lost several members of my family since we have been married (all older). He now says that he doesn’t want to be by myside when my family dies because of the lifestyle they are choosing – drinking and smoking. He has really said some hurtful things. I don’t know what to do. I do love him and want my marriage to work.

]]> Comment on Strategies for a Successful Marriage by tscott07 http://healthylivingseminars.wordpress.com/2007/10/15/strategies-for-a-successful-marriage/#comment-55 tscott07 Sat, 15 Nov 2008 20:22:07 +0000 http://healthylivingseminars.wordpress.com/2007/10/15/strategies-for-a-successful-marriage/#comment-55 Hey Alissa, Thanks for reading and posting your comment. You know marriage is a tough, tuff, process, with a lot of ups and downs. No one really gets it right and there is enough blame to be shared by all. In the midst of the storm (marriage) there is God's grace and mercy, balance with the consequences of sin. We too must strive for that balance. Yes, Jesus is the answer and I am happy that you found rest, but remember the Christian life, must still be lived despite all of the adversities with God's love (Matthew 12:7). Thanks again for reading and posting. Dr. Scott www.healthylivingseminars.org Hey Alissa,

Thanks for reading and posting your comment. You know marriage is a tough, tuff, process, with a lot of ups and downs. No one really gets it right and there is enough blame to be shared by all.

In the midst of the storm (marriage) there is God’s grace and mercy, balance with the consequences of sin. We too must strive for that balance.

Yes, Jesus is the answer and I am happy that you found rest, but remember the Christian life, must still be lived despite all of the adversities with God’s love (Matthew 12:7).

Thanks again for reading and posting.

Dr. Scott
http://www.healthylivingseminars.org

]]> Comment on Strategies for a Successful Marriage by Alissa http://healthylivingseminars.wordpress.com/2007/10/15/strategies-for-a-successful-marriage/#comment-53 Alissa Sat, 15 Nov 2008 18:30:43 +0000 http://healthylivingseminars.wordpress.com/2007/10/15/strategies-for-a-successful-marriage/#comment-53 I don't know if Justin will read this again. But do you think that maybe your wife might need to take a break from working? I used to be like her and when I stopped working and concentrated on my relationship with Jesus Christ I am getting better with dealing with my emotions. Your wife has emotions that she doesn't know how to deal with. She need Jesus help and your help not your criticism. God Bless You I don’t know if Justin will read this again. But do you think that maybe your wife might need to take a break from working?

I used to be like her and when I stopped working and concentrated on my relationship with Jesus Christ I am getting better with dealing with my emotions.

Your wife has emotions that she doesn’t know how to deal with. She need Jesus help and your help not your criticism.

God Bless You

]]> Comment on Strategies for a Successful Marriage by Alissa http://healthylivingseminars.wordpress.com/2007/10/15/strategies-for-a-successful-marriage/#comment-54 Alissa Sat, 15 Nov 2008 18:28:43 +0000 http://healthylivingseminars.wordpress.com/2007/10/15/strategies-for-a-successful-marriage/#comment-54 I don't know if Justin will read this again. But do you think that maybe your wife might need to take a break from working? I used to be like her and when I stopped working and concentrated on my relationship with Jesus Christ I am getting better with dealing with my emotions. Your wife has emotions that she doesn't know how to deal with. She need Jesus help and your help not your criticism. God Bless You I don’t know if Justin will read this again. But do you think that maybe your wife might need to take a break from working?

I used to be like her and when I stopped working and concentrated on my relationship with Jesus Christ I am getting better with dealing with my emotions.

Your wife has emotions that she doesn’t know how to deal with. She need Jesus help and your help not your criticism.

God Bless You

]]> Comment on Strategies for a Successful Marriage by Justin http://healthylivingseminars.wordpress.com/2007/10/15/strategies-for-a-successful-marriage/#comment-52 Justin Fri, 24 Oct 2008 01:12:30 +0000 http://healthylivingseminars.wordpress.com/2007/10/15/strategies-for-a-successful-marriage/#comment-52 Hi Dr. Scott, Thank you very much for your response. It is really a blessing to know that other members of God's family is praying for us. I will seek more diligently the wisdom from God and ask His providence so that I can be REALLY obedient to his words and be the kind of husband that He desires -- Love and respect my wife and pray for her. I believe that God will heal our marriage and make it the way it should be. He kept us together for 18 years (a long time learning process about ourselves) and I trust He want us to be closer to Him through this struggle. I appreciate your prayers and trust God will hear and answer them. Thank you and God bless. Justin Hi Dr. Scott,

Thank you very much for your response. It is really a blessing to know that other members of God’s family is praying for us. I will seek more diligently the wisdom from God and ask His providence so that I can be REALLY obedient to his words and be the kind of husband that He desires — Love and respect my wife and pray for her. I believe that God will heal our marriage and make it the way it should be. He kept us together for 18 years (a long time learning process about ourselves) and I trust He want us to be closer to Him through this struggle.

I appreciate your prayers and trust God will hear and answer them.

Thank you and God bless.

Justin

]]> Comment on Strategies for a Successful Marriage by tscott07 http://healthylivingseminars.wordpress.com/2007/10/15/strategies-for-a-successful-marriage/#comment-51 tscott07 Wed, 22 Oct 2008 09:13:40 +0000 http://healthylivingseminars.wordpress.com/2007/10/15/strategies-for-a-successful-marriage/#comment-51 Hey Justin, First of all let me say that my heart goes out to your marriage and needless to say, your marriage is in trouble! From your comments you both are very angry and seemingly bitter. This anger and bitterness may have little to do with your marriage, but tied to deep developmental roots. The marriage may just be the place that it is now manifesting. Both you and your wife should seek professional counseling (marriage) and also counseling with your pastor. If for some reason, your wife will no go, then you should go without her, so that you can learn to live in a difficult situation. I do not believe that you have biblical grounds for a divorce and with help, this marriage may be saved! After 18 years, there must have been some good times. Don't loose those memories. Take the history (good or bad) and seek help. You can visit our web page at www.healthylivingseminars.org once there go the the self-help page and click on the self-help resources. There are many options to choose from and I am confident that your marriage can be helped. First, seek out your pastor and then combine to resources provided. Let me know how God blessed your marriage and we will keep you in our prayers. Dr. Scott Hey Justin,

First of all let me say that my heart goes out to your marriage and needless to say, your marriage is in trouble!

From your comments you both are very angry and seemingly bitter. This anger and bitterness may have little to do with your marriage, but tied to deep developmental roots. The marriage may just be the place that it is now manifesting. Both you and your wife should seek professional counseling (marriage) and also counseling with your pastor.

If for some reason, your wife will no go, then you should go without her, so that you can learn to live in a difficult situation. I do not believe that you have biblical grounds for a divorce and with help, this marriage may be saved!

After 18 years, there must have been some good times. Don’t loose those memories. Take the history (good or bad) and seek help. You can visit our web page at http://www.healthylivingseminars.org once there go the the self-help page and click on the self-help resources. There are many options to choose from and I am confident that your marriage can be helped. First, seek out your pastor and then combine to resources provided. Let me know how God blessed your marriage and we will keep you in our prayers.

Dr. Scott

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